Deal Breakers

The definition of a deal breaker according to the dictionary is a factor or issue which, if unresolved during negotiations, that would cause one party to withdraw from a deal.

It is a proven fact that most people if not all people have deal breakers. They have deal breakers for their work environment, home life, romantic encounters, friendships, etc. Once the deal is broken people collect themselves and remove themselves or others from their lives because they recognize their worth and won’t accept anything less.

Why is it that we can have deal breakers in every aspect of our lives, but still accept any and everything in relationship to our health?

We should have deal breakers and stick to them in our health as well. If we are not being heard by our medical professionals then that’s a deal breaker. If we don’t agree with our treatment plan and we are not given an active role in our treatment plan then that’s a deal breaker. If we are brushed off or given the run around by our medical professionals then that’s a deal breaker. If we are uncomfortable or don’t trust our medical professionals then that’s a deal breaker. I can go on and on…

The fact of the matter is, if you know your worth and set standards in your everyday life, then your health should be included.

You deserve greatness, to feel comfortable, to be heard, to be valued as an intricate part of your medical care and a better quality of life!

Know your worth!!!! What are your health deal breakers?????


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I Give Up

“I GIVE UP,” are words we hear when people are at their wits ends. They are tired of hurting, tired of fighting, tired of pushing, tired of hiding, tired of being misunderstood, tired of being mistreated, tired of being undervalued, tired of being unheard, tired of it all. They have sought help and been refused, been turned away and treated unfairly. They are seriously over it.

What they fail to realize is that sometimes you have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired for YOU to make the proper changes in your life that YOU need. You were so busy focusing on how tired you were that you missed the fact that you haven’t done anything to help yourself.

Are you advocating for yourself?

Are you adhering to the doctors orders?

Are you taking your meds on schedule?

Are you exercising?

Are you taking the time to do things you love?

Are you taking proper care of yourself?

Are you clear in your communications?

Are you speaking loud enough to be heard?

Are you doing anything to help yourself?

If you are going to GIVE UP, then give up your bad habits of not following doctors orders and not taking meds on time.

Give up your bad attitude and be thankful for those who are trying to help you.

Give up your stubborn behavior thinking those behaviors will change your circumstances.

Give up the self pity because it isn’t helping you get better.

Give up your pride and allow those who love you to care for you.

Give up your unrealistic expectations and set achievable goals.

Give up everything that is hindering your progress.

Give up the mentality thinking if you give up you won’t hurt because truth be told you’re going to hurt yourself worse.

Give up the negativity and focus on the positive.

It’s perfectly okay if you give up, but give up your hindrances and not your fight and watch how fast you will win!!!!!


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The Wait Is Over

The weight of the world seems to always lay on our shoulders. There is always something occupying our brain matter. In fact we spend so much time wearying about others that we neglect ourselves. Everyone else’s needs come before our own because it is our desire to see the people we care about reach goals that seem to be unreachable to us because of illness or other factors. We want them to have a better quality of life than we do. We want them to surpass every goal they set and be successful in their every endeavor.

This can be an awesome thing or it could be a very bad thing. Neglecting ourselves can be a detrimental part of our demise, but fighting for them and cheering them on can also be motivation.

I had a major epiphany regarding this though……

We can not allow the weight of the world to weigh us down while we are waiting for our breakthrough. Go ahead and read that again until it really sinks in. We can not allow the weight of the world (our love for folks) weigh us down while we are waiting for our breakthrough.


I’m glad you asked!!!

We can’t allow this because when our breakthrough comes we need to be ready. We have waited a long time for our healing, financial blessing, completion in our lives and homes, peace, etc. and we will be too weak to receive it when it comes if we are weighed down by other people’s stuff.

We have to learn to pray for them, help them, but not let their issues become our issues.

You see, it’s time to get ready because your wait is over!!!!!

Your blessing, healing, strength, peace, hope, etc. Is almost here!!!! Get yourself ready!!!!

The wait is over!!!!!!


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Down Memory Lane: A Child’s Prayer

“Now I lay me down to sleep… “Yes, that’s how the popular children’s prayer starts. Starting this prayer means that it’s bed time. We were to get down on our knees with our hands together in reverence to God as we prepared for a great nights rest.

“I pray the Lord my soul to keep…” the prayer continues. We didn’t know what that meant, but we were asking God to keep us. Keep us from hurt, harm and danger. Keep us from the evils of this world. Keep our minds. Keep our bodies and keep our souls pure like him. Sometimes that even meant keeping us from ourselves.

“If I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take…” If for some reason I didn’t make it through the night, Lord take me to heaven with you. My pure soul belongs to you and I want to be where you are.

Then we would say, “ God bless…” and go down the list of who we wanted God to bless. We prayed this prayer nightly and as soon as we finished, we got in the bed and went straight to sleep.

Here it is 20+ years later and we still remember our prayer like it was yesterday. Some of us still saying that same prayer, while others not praying at all. Then we wonder why our minds are unsettled and sleep doesn’t seem to fall on us.

We forgot our fundamentals. As children we may not have realized how important this prayer is, but as adults we should have no problem seeing it’s importance in our lives.

“Now I lay me down to sleep…” God we have had a long day. We are tired, stressed out, in pain and at our wits ends. Despite all we are enduring, we are coming to you as humbly as we know how to give us rest. Allow us to lay comfortably down to sleep. Lay without pain and anguish. Lay without heartache expecting to be able to sleep.

“I pray the Lord my soul to keep…” Lord keep me when I don’t have sense enough to keep myself. Keep me from misery. Keep me from anything that is unlike you. We have not because we ask not, so we are asking you to keep us. If you shall keep us, we shall be kept.

“If I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take…” If it is in your will for me to live no more, know that I am your servant and I’m asking you to open the flood gates of Heaven. Allow me to be hurt free, pain free, fatigue free, sickness free, medicine free. Give me a clear heart and elevate me as you see fit.

“God bless..” everyone that will read this. Give them the faith to believe your word and realize it does not come back void. God bless their going and coming. God bless their homes, finances and family. Bless them with renewed strength, peace and your joy. Bless them in deed.

God, allow all who read this to remember their childhood prayer and give them the same yearning to go before you every night in prayer.

We can’t keep thinking God should do for us like we are entitled and we can’t even go before him in prayer. You are standing in between you and your breakthrough, your great rest and your healing.

As you go to sleep, don’t forget to go before your God in prayer!

Now I lay me down to sleep; I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake; I pray the Lord my soul to take. God bless you all!!!!!


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Incredible Strength

Here it is 4am and I’m wide awake. You thought I said I was tired? I did! I’m purely exhausted. My tired is tired. Why must this happen all the time?????

As you lay sleeping well, I lay here with my eyes open.

As you lay snoring, I lay counting sheep.

As you lay drooling, I lay in excruciating pain keeping me from closing my eyes for a second.

This is agony! This is torture! I wouldn’t wish this on my greatest enemy, if I had one. Everything hurts from head to toe. My neck is stiff and throbbing; my head pounding; my arms too heavy to lift; my elbows, knees, ankles, knuckles and toes are aching; my feet and hands swollen and I am just miserable. How can anyone sleep with all of this going on?

People wonder why you are always tired. Well this is why. It is simply impossible to get proper rest in this condition.

You know what though…

Life still goes on as time waits for no one, so you have to push to make it through your days.

You do it though! You find things to do to help you make it through. You find things that holds your attention relieving the stress and anxiety of being unable to sleep.

What I have grown to realize is, I’m stronger than I give myself credit for being. I endure a lot of pain and I keep going. I’m faced with sleepless nights, but I still get up in the morning. I deal with pain 24/7, but I haven’t and won’t give up!

I’m sure if you really think of your life and the things you have to endure, you will realize you too are stronger than you give yourself credit for!

Despite what you are going through, celebrate the victory of your incredible strength; stay focused and you will make it through!!!!


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Clear Communication and Agreeable Understandings

It has been proven that because we as Spoonies have to miss out on quite a few things because of our illnesses; we over strive to provide our loved ones with what we think is the time of their lives so they will never feel what we feel. We don’t ever want them to be disappointed, broken, unimportant, not a priority, hidden or just simply not seen at all, invisible.

We try our best to give them what we would love to have. We expend just about all of our spoons with no regret, because our loved ones mean that much to us.

The thing about doing this is, if there is no agreeable understanding of why we do what we do, we end up getting our feelings hurt.

Without understanding your loved ones will never see why you push your ideas or why you are so excited about things. It actually can come off to them as you only thinking about your desires and not theirs.

You just want them to be happy and to have the life you aren’t able to live. You sacrifice yourself, your spoons, your health, etc. trying to do what you think may brighten their day, not realizing in the long run you are damaging your own psyche when you don’t receive the reaction you were anticipating.

Now you are hurt no matter how bad you try not to be and you have to take time to re-evaluate everything from start to finish.

Your relationships are now suffering as a result and you just want to give up.

The fact of the matter is, communication is key and essential to making sure there is a clear understanding between you and your loved ones. Without the key you can not start the car and you will never move from the spot you’re currently parked in. Without clear communication and understanding you will never achieve unity and every relationship will be stagnant leaving you empty, alone and resentful.

I encourage you to communicate effectively until there is a clear agreeable understanding. This is detrimental to your current relationships and is imperative to ensuring and fostering positive relationships in the future, which in turn enhances your health and quality of life.


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